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PostPosted: Fri Mar 21, 2014 9:11 pm 
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For a long time I've been convinced you just don't like me. I'm just trying to give advice.

Edit: also pretty sure S1eepy doesn't care for me. Fallout hasn't responded to any texts, IMs or tweets in a long time. The more I think about it, the more sure I am most of you guys just don't like me. :-/

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i think you're a smart, interesting, and fairly unique guy who has a habit on this board of reacting to things he isn't very familiar with personally before he's thought about it. I simply have no interest in getting into fights with anybody, let alone over my single use of an uncommon but apt three letter word. I am forthright and occasionally i am sarcastic. I really don't think you need to go over this with everyone every single time - this is a place for casual conversation. Nobody needs to try and change anybody's mind about anything, most of us respect that there are different points of view here. i value this community and that is why i posted this here. Very few people know this stuff about me.


edit: i have suffered heavily from chronic depression for a long time, among other things. i do have to apologise for having the wrong attitude on here most of the time myself.

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For a long time I've been convinced you just don't like me. I'm just trying to give advice.

Edit: also pretty sure S1eepy doesn't care for me. Fallout hasn't responded to any texts, IMs or tweets in a long time. The more I think about it, the more sure I am most of you guys just don't like me. :-/

Do whatever you want.

I like you... :(

As for this topic, I haven't posted here because I legitimately don't know what to say. Please don't take that as a lack of support. I consider all the members of this forum friends as much as I do my friends IRL. It's just that it's an unfamiliar topic to me, much like when Sanct came out, followed shortly after by an IRL friend. It just takes a while to wrap my head around things outside "the norm" because I'm not normally exposed to it. I'll try my best to help in any way I can, but understanding things like this that I know nothing about just takes a little while.

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Quick note on the children (not child) portion: I know which of y'all have kids, but the numbers for everyone are sketchy. I know we have the baby thread, but I check it, read, but have little or nothing to add besides a congrats because I have no experience in the "kids and shit" realm outside of dating a mom for about 6 months. Also, without Facebook and such I just dont keep up on those aspects of a lot of peoples lives. I apologize for that. That was my bad.

And I just had nothing big to add. Its something I was like "that's a bit new" but I'm not against it. Whole you were mentioning some things I figured the comments towards specific things was just mentions. While I know we're all pretty awesome and open here, with this topic and in general, I didn't want to get into or ask about private stuff. That might just be because I, myself, am pretty private with personal stuff. I dont even think I come on here and talk about it unless its super big or been going on long enough that it doesn't seem/isn't a private thing anymore.

The look you have in the pics just comes off as normal to me. Is that weird? My little brother listens to bands who dress very androgynous all the time and in Bloomington I saw people in those types of styles daily.

It is one of those things where I dont think we can relate. I'm almost 100% sure we're all supportive of your ongoing discovery and things, but Sanct might be the only one who can relate in any way. I'm sure we'll all listen and we all care (because seriously, we're basically a small familial group) and we're going to be supportive with advice and everything, but as Nameless(?) Said some ability yo relate is a bit problematic. As this is not something we've had to experience ourselves.

So we're here. Personally, I'm not weirded out. I'm not uncomfortable. To me, although you're discovering yourself, you're still the same person I'd call a friend if anyone asked. And I will treat you as such without hesitation.

Random questions:

1) did the term LGBTQ add the Q recently in the accommodation of gender queer people? Because I was very cautious as to why it was added, decently, recently.

2) there arent any words that would be offensive slurs or anything that are synonyms for stupid stuff we should avoid are there? (Ex: fag being used as 'dumbass' and such during the late ,90s/early 00s)

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I'm not asking you to not use terms like cis.

I'm telling you they've been ruined by idiots, and you won't get taken seriously if you use them.

You're free to use whatever terminology you want, just understand that people won't take what you say seriously, They'll assume you're another tumblr idiot.


That's their problem then

Like it or not that's the jargon and is used outside of tumblr on the reg

Yeah there's a faction of shitty internet people but that's the case with literally everything

Also gimp I know we butt heads a lot but good luck and stuff; there's a growing scene of LGBT folks in the games press scene and the shit they have to deal with is awful and that's literally the only context I have w/ this stuff and is probably the least terrible thing because as shitty as nerds are the world at large is worse

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As for this topic, I haven't posted here because I legitimately don't know what to say. Please don't take that as a lack of support. I consider all the members of this forum friends as much as I do my friends IRL. It's just that it's an unfamiliar topic to me, much like when Sanct came out, followed shortly after by an IRL friend. It just takes a while to wrap my head around things outside "the norm" because I'm not normally exposed to it. I'll try my best to help in any way I can, but understanding things like this that I know nothing about just takes a little while.

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The look you have in the pics just comes off as normal to me. Is that weird? My little brother listens to bands who dress very androgynous all the time and in Bloomington I saw people in those types of styles daily.

It's normal to me too.

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1) did the term LGBTQ add the Q recently in the accommodation of gender queer people? Because I was very cautious as to why it was added, decently, recently.

Well that and those people who don't feel that their sexuality fits into gay bi or straight. There has been and is a lot of prejudice within the homosexual community towards other orientations and I gather they were addressing that. The I is for intersex.

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2) there arent any words that would be offensive slurs or anything that are synonyms for stupid stuff we should avoid are there? (Ex: fag being used as 'dumbass' and such during the late ,90s/early 00s)

say whatever you want, i do. literally the only offensive thing i can think of is gay being used to mean bad (it meant joy :facepalm:). OH and "tranny". don't say that.

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I'm not asking you to not use terms like cis.

I'm telling you they've been ruined by idiots, and you won't get taken seriously if you use them.

You're free to use whatever terminology you want, just understand that people won't take what you say seriously, They'll assume you're another tumblr idiot.


That's their problem then

Like it or not that's the jargon and is used outside of tumblr on the reg

Yeah there's a faction of shitty internet people but that's the case with literally everything

Here here! :\m/:

Edit: The alternative is 'binary' gendered which i find more offensive, and inaccurate.

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incidently i have now become so obscure to the public mental health system that i can never go to therapy. They still force ECT on people like me and emily.

I'll answer the other couple of questions in a bit, I've got the kids this week.

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For a long time I've been convinced you just don't like me. I'm just trying to give advice.

Edit: also pretty sure S1eepy doesn't care for me. Fallout hasn't responded to any texts, IMs or tweets in a long time. The more I think about it, the more sure I am most of you guys just don't like me. :-/

Do whatever you want.


you might actually be my favorite person here. i know i get kinda ragey sometimes, but it's a decided caricature. there's a quote which best explains my feelings on friends:
"Whatever you do in life, surround yourself with smart people who'll argue with you."~John Wooden

it's often hard to read where i'm coming from, but i'm just the guy that does things the other way around. if i see that something is primarily one way: i go the opposite route. if i am told that something must be one way; i have an obligation to explore that it isn't. my whole personality is setup to take a different shape for every type of social interaction. i realize that this makes me sound incredibly sociopathic, but i try quite hard to countersink how subversive that potentially makes me by holding very strongly to a few core principles which forbid me from doing certain kinds of things. and by intentionally portraying myself in an abrasive way in an attempt to force others to be skeptical of me. as in general: i would like everyone to exercise that more. the trust i have i want to make certain that i earn as i know full well how simple it really is to steal.

i like when well reasoned people aren't afraid to call me stupid. i love it when they can show me why. that's like; the thing i want. i don't know everything and i want to make sure that my ideas are as sound as possible. so if something i say seems inconsistent with what someone thinks: then i want to resolve the inconsistency by either individual learning something that had not previously known, or being able to perceive something different than previously.

i'll cut that here. don't want to go too far into a different subject.

though; the point of this thread. gimp, you're still gimp. your aesthetic sensibilities are as strong as ever and your mind is exploring new perspectives as thoroughly as you always have. you take your time with things and develop your own understanding. that's a quality i respect a lot. anyone who gets into that book can't really be capable of doing anything that strikes me as off-color. being one's own person makes everything all good. shape your reality to whatever you want it to be. the only taboo is denial of choice.

speaking of which. . . what inspired you to break that wall down?

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Interesting to hear you talk about the fluidity and fluctuation. Have a friend named Elmo and they are raising a son. They bring up the subject to him all the time. "Sometime's mommy's a he and sometime's a she" They're very fluid about it. It might be possible that you won't move past this stage as quick as you think. But then, you know you better than I do so there's that. :coookieesssss:

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well this thread just got about 10x gayer.

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speaking of which. . . what inspired you to break that wall down?

long answer; taking care of myself properly and liking my body for the first time ever, short answer; threesomes. but you know me i don't like to feel limited.

i'll post more on it soon, kids keeping me busy

edit: snifit: indeed. impossible to know - that's why i'm comfortable saying that's where i'm at at the moment. i don't want to be a femme woman anymore than i want to be a butch man. atm it feels like i'll end up being fluid on a spectrum from androgynous woman to vaguely flamboyant & effeminate man but i'd call that genderqueer. I've never acted much straighter than that

edit 2: fyi i am currently wearing black nail and toe polish every day and i've started shaving my legs (after i took that photo :?). i'm wearing skinnyleg/skintight jeans and tight shirts when i leave the house - and i still have a beard. :?

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I'm sorry I didn't catch that you wanted more of a discussion but outside of: "I really don't care about anybody's sexual preferences, identification or whatever, you're still the same person and I won't like you less or more for it" I can't really add that much. Gender studies has been a couple of years ago and I forgot most of what I learned then. Seriously, most of what I remember is an arthouse movie (or project) called "Pansexual Public Porn".

I am a bit more familiar with depression but not to the extend you seem to suffer from it, so I can't add much to that either.

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edit 2: fyi i am currently wearing black nail and toe polish every day and i've started shaving my legs (after i took that photo :?). i'm wearing skinnyleg/skintight jeans and tight shirts when i leave the house - and i still have a beard. :?


So...you're a member of the Black Veil Brides?

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edit 2: fyi i am currently wearing black nail and toe polish every day and i've started shaving my legs (after i took that photo :?). i'm wearing skinnyleg/skintight jeans and tight shirts when i leave the house - and i still have a beard. :?


So...you're a member of the Black Veil Brides?

who?

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woah did somebody hose off KISS?

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1. Gimp, it's awesome of you being able to come out like this, and I wish you the best of luck and offer whatever support I can, because I know things are hard for anyone who doesn't fit into the neat little boxes our culture likes to make for sexuality/gender. I know we argue all the time on these forums, but hey, good on ya.

2. Napalm, I like you.

(P.S. I also like everyone else on here, basically. Unless "Juggalones" makes a surprise return.)

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1. Gimp, it's awesome of you being able to come out like this, and I wish you the best of luck and offer whatever support I can, because I know things are hard for anyone who doesn't fit into the neat little boxes our culture likes to make for sexuality/gender. I know we argue all the time on these forums, but hey, good on ya.

2. Napalm, I like you.

(P.S. I also like everyone else on here, basically. Unless "Juggalones" makes a surprise return.)



Everyone else? ouch! :coookieesssss:

jk :wink: ty

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1. Gimp, it's awesome of you being able to come out like this, and I wish you the best of luck and offer whatever support I can, because I know things are hard for anyone who doesn't fit into the neat little boxes our culture likes to make for sexuality/gender. I know we argue all the time on these forums, but hey, good on ya.

2. Napalm, I like you.

(P.S. I also like everyone else on here, basically. Unless "Juggalones" makes a surprise return.)


Well he said things a lot more concise than I did.

As for the BVB, right? My brother listens to them and has posters all in his room. I pointed out "Hey, Kiss and David Bowie had a weird goth kid." Totally didn't get that at all. But your description of your look just made me think of the posters on his walls.

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I think you starting the topic with such declarations that we all thought this was more of a 'coming out' thing than a 'discussion' thing. What precisely did you want to discuss? The binary notion of gender as societal construct? I've got no problems discussing that.

Gender, and to be clear we are discussing gender and not sex, is a wholly arbitrary thing used to keep up social norms and rules that really don't apply any more. I just don't think the majority of people have really sat down to consider 'gender.' I think gender can be, and in most respects IS, just as fluid as sexuality. There's no "I'm male" or "I'm female." We all contain aspects of both masculine and feminine characteristics, it's just a question of to what degree. It started as a running joke amongst friends here but as time went by my fiance and I realized that in our relationship I am 'the girl' while she is 'the guy.' Please don't think of that in sexual terms because that's not how it is. In the classic relationship structure people think of, I'M the one who is more emotional, more affectionate, more nurturing, and in many typical ways more feminine. Again, NOT in a bedroom sense. I honestly have no problems with that. I've never been into traditionally masculine things. I've never liked sports. I've never liked competition. I've never bought into strength as the be all end all. I've always been more emotionally in tuned. I've always had closer friendships and relationships to females over males. Now I'm not quick to call myself female gendered but again I honestly haven't sat down to really consider it. Truthfully it's just never come up. Of course one of the benefits of knowing a lot of queer pagan people is gender doesn't get brought up often because no one cares. I don't think I'm female. I definitely feel male. As far as gender though, well I definitely lean a bit more towards feminine than masculine but gender is still arbitrary.


Wow I can't believe I glossed over this.

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What made you question everything? I know lots of people have gay or bi fantasies so finding an attraction to men isn't that surprising but where did the genderqueer aspects come in? What mad you reach this point?


Um... I don't know? Just working out i was bi i suppose. I was curious to see if i was pan, and my whole perspective on myself was different, and it just seemed dumb not to question it. I was questioning my sexuality constantly until then (horray for being repressed) and i guess I finally moved on to gender.

I grew up with women, and my dad was always all homophobic about it. I'd get ridiculed for dressing up and wearing make up or playing with their toys. He wasn't around and is shit at being a man himself so I never connected with that side at all. I've always had feminine affectations. I'm very comfortable with being of the male sex (i have jim morrison affectations as well) but ive never been comfortable being male gendered & i like to fuck with people. I don't feel female either. I've always identified very strongly with queer, and poorly suppressed inclinations to act feminine. It's a big relief to drop the charade finally - i guess i thought i'd feel like a man by the time i was adult.

It's just taking a while for me to grow up i think :P



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Bogey: Uhh you might be thrown by the coincidence of those pictures all being black. they're pretty goth/punk. perhaps you should think more 'gay-man with nail polish' - i was wearing a lavender button-up shirt the last two days

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Same here.

Gimp - Your boy crush looks like Ryan Gosling. Good taste.


On the subject of people getting offended and what not, I find the main cause for that on here is that it's very hard to tell who's being serious and who's being funny / sarcastic. A sentence such as

"Identify how you want dude, I'm cool with whatever you want to do" said without hearing the tone of voice or watching someone's face while talking can be taken in any number of ways.

"I'm cool with whatever you do" is approving and friendly. xD

"I'm cool with whatever you do" is condescending and judging. :roll:

"I'm cool with whatever you do" is dismissive and apathetic. :redv:

"I'm cool with whatever you do" is secretly hating you :fuckingsun:

"I'm cool with whatever you do" is letting you know you have support :buddy:

remember guys (or gals, and all in-between), most of what we say can be interpreted in many different ways. Don't get angry at the "mean" person writing initially, and don't get angry at the "offended" reader, if either are the case. After all, we could all just be masturbating behind the keyboard right now, no one knows for sure.



Ok, now that I've warned Nameless and told him a bit about myself...

ME TOO

I'm gonna get pretty detailed here, just a warning.

Very close to what Gimp has said about his identity with one big difference. I do identify as male about 90% of the time. The other 10% requires certain circumstances.

I've known since I was about 14, so more than half my life now. Didn't really know exactly until I was around 22 or 23). Sister also knows, told her a few weeks ago.

Never acted on my bi side, however. I just like chicks too much, and I'm too picky when it comes to guys. Meet a total of 2 in person that I liked, but first one kinda disappeared after that one Neskimos show at backstreets and never saw him again. Wanna say it was the show that Crashman crashed on my couch afterwards. 2nd guy was a close friend who was very openly gay and came on to me several times, but he would have been the feminine side of the relationship, and I don't dig guys like that.

With women, I'm male, but if I was with a guy, I'd be female. Does that make sense? It doesn't to me, because I have a dick. The only kind of sex I'm attracted to is male + female, but I would totally be that female if it were possible.

No, I wouldn't ever go transgender, I like women WAY too much, and I like identifying as male with them. But there is that side of me that is definitely a chick in some way.

I've considered drag, mostly for the sheer shits and giggles of it. Like, there's an ameteur night at the metro that I would totally do as a fat-ass drag queen and really ham it up, but I don't want to shave my beard. However, I am going to do a cosplay at a convention soon that will be drag, and I will have to shave.... beard, mustache, back, chest, and legs for it. It's gonna be hilarious.

Dominant when I'm male, submissive when I'm female. Like, I'm into some pretty fucking weird porn, but it's not really because I'm like "yeah, I'd do that to her" it's more like "yeah, do that to me." Pretty fucking out there by most people's standards, I know. As female, I would enjoy getting tied up and smacked around.

So.... yeah.... You're not alone. I'm not exactly the same, but I'm in a really weird category still. Everything that you explained about how you identify (or don't, for that matter) makes more sense to me than how I identify.

You mentioned it's "not like flicking a switch" for you. It is for me. When I'm at home, I'm Locrian. Big guy with a beard that wears Rammstein gear and likes to run into mosh pits at Metallica concerts.

But holy fuck, when Kirk Hammet and James Hetfield both turned DIRECTLY to me to play the solo to "One"? I was a total chick for the rest of the night. That's how it works for me. See a guy I'm attracted to, BAM, I'm female. It's rare, but it is exactly like flicking a switch.

So.... There ya go. Crash, Spidey, Nameless, Donnie and Brock (I know they lurk here), your Dungeon Master is a closet chick. Or at least until now.

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Locrian, sweet, glad you felt comfortable telling us that on here. I mean, I think there's VERY few people who fall 100 percent into "straight" and "male" on the VAST spectrum that is sexuality/gender, so it's always good for people to feel safe acknowledging and expressing other facets of that.



And if we're all going to say the slightly gay/gender nonconforming things about ourselves on here...I'm BASICALLY straight, but I for sure would have very few issues being involved with like, a trans woman if I found her attractive. Which genitals someone has ranks surprisingly low on my list of things I care about in a woman.

I don't think I necessarily IDENTIFY as female in any way, but like, I've always related better with my female than male friends, and honestly I find most things associated with "MALE CULTURE!!!" or "masculinity" distasteful or unnecessarily gruff. Like, men's beauty products are absurd to me. "Body wash! So you can have a single liquid to wash your whole body and hair with, and it smells like something manly like burnt wood or some shit!" Fuck off with that, fuck off with sports, fuck off with senseless violence.

I think that speaks more to the increasingly silly ways we try to distinguish what is "male" or "female", though. I dunno. Thoughts?

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That's the really strange part to me though. I really like most of the "male culture" stuff too. Sports I'm kinda meh on, but I like watching highlight reels. I LOVE WWF and other "pro" wrestling. Not the whole show, or the stupid soap opera drama they put on, but highlight reels again. Those guys are fucking ninjas. Also, love the COD series and senseless violence.

I'm not really that comfortable with it yet. Like, I know exactly what it is and I'm pretty sure that it's defined right, but within the gay community I am an oddity. Most people like me are 10% male and 90% female and are great candidates for sex changes. I'm the exact opposite and will probably never explore that side of myself.

Oh, I should add that my wife knows, she has since a few months after we started dating. For a while she didn't really believe me though, so I had to talk with her once and just be like "I'm serious about this, btw, I'm a fag (in some sense of the word)". That finally convinced her.

Not trying to overshadow Gimp's discussion on here, btw. I just thought that our similarities (and vast differences) might help out with some questions you have about yourself. I struggled with depression over this a while ago too, and even went through a cycle of suicidal thoughts. Got into counseling over it, but it didn't do shit, I just wanted to bang my therapist, so that was a bust. Took a while, but I got comfortable with it by myself.

It's summed up like this. I'm not attracted to guys in the sense that I would want to be with them UNLESS I had tits and a vagina. As long as I'm a dude in the surgical sense I'll probably only want to be with women. That side of me has a VERY strong pull, however. I could see myself, under different circumstances, going WAY into the feminine spectrum.

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Well gimp, I for one fully endorse your new found identity and eagerly anticipate your new SciFi inspired name.

And, so long as we're all sharing details of our sexuality, I am contained in a biologically male vessel and I exclusively enjoy coupling with biologically female vessels containing a sentience that is pretty okay with its vessel.

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And, so long as we're all sharing details of our sexuality, I am contained in a biologically male vessel and I exclusively enjoy coupling with biologically female vessels containing a sentience that is pretty okay with its vessel.


That is also my preference. The rest is just... kinda there, in the background, for the most part. Either way, I like both sides of the coin, even though it only lands on tails like 1 / 10 times.

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i shove fists into things and call it love



also, this is why I love the forums. this shit ain't for facebook yo

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also, this is why I love the forums. this shit ain't for facebook yo


Also, if I posted this to FB, everyone would just think it's an April fools thing. I fucking hate today. You can't trust anything on the internet (ever more so than usual that is).

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